Author: Dardhcii

My mentor warned me from the onset that my dream must be worthwhile before starting the tedious journey of achieving them. He stated further that People who achieve their dreams are people who confronted the truth before taking off. I conducted research about people who were achieving their dreams and discovered that they became dogmatic and fought against all odds that stood in their way. Their sheer determination became their pillar of strength towards great achievements. The formula usually applies is, if I give up, then I might as well give up on life.

I heard from a reliable source that Bill gates started out in 1975 but the whole world did not get to know about him until 1995. It took him twenty years to get to where he is today. I wondered about the number of people worldwide who set out to pursue their dreams to make a difference in the world, but gave up within a few months because of an impediment. This is the reason my mentor stated that my dream must be worthwhile, if it is worthwhile, giving up will be a problem. Many who gave up on their dreams did so because their reasons were not strong enough.

On the other hand, I also found out that some dreams were worth giving up if you are not making headway. Research showed that many people no longer see walking down the aisle and making the vow of death do us part as a big deal.  Despite this, many are still getting married. I believe this was the dream of a guy whose story I read; his obsession probably showed that he had the intention of getting married someday. He saw a lady he liked so much, but like they always say it takes two to tango, he was in love and she was not.

He was determined to get her at all cost, but all effort was met with great rebuff. He became creative with words and started sending love letters, hoping to win her over. It was claimed that he sent hundreds of letters during the summertime and yet the lady could not be bothered. In conclusion the lady found love somewhere else and got married, she got married to the postman who kept delivering the love letters. It was pointless to keep pursuing a dream not worthwhile. This man should have given up after a reasonable attempt. It was never too late to give up on a dream that proved to be a time waster.

It was all about learning to strike a balance; if he was on the right path, it would have made sense to pursue forever and break forth someday.  Obsession occupies both sides of the same coin, on one side, it is a motivator towards living a fulfilled life. On the other side, it could prove to be destructive if employed for the wrong reasons, just like the case of the lover boy.

 

It is indeed true that life is about making choices, where I am today is the total sum of my choices. The formula is if I am not pleased with my current result, I need to make major changes to get a favourable result. According to Einstein, I can’t keep doing the same thing, day in day out and expect a different result.

I began to question why some were living their dreams and others living their nightmare. In conclusion, it amounted to one thing, the power of choice combine with action will produce a desirable result.

As a full time, student many years ago at the University, I needed an extra income because the combination of the Government’s grant and student loans were not enough to sustain me. I was lucky to get a part time job with a media company as a security guard with flexible hours. Working with this Company I learnt that life indeed, was about making choices.

There were two men involved in this Company; the first man was the founder. The Company was worth about £2 Billion during my time of employment. The Founder established the Company with a chair and a table about twenty-five years prior.

I got to know the background story about the Company through the second man who was the caretaker. The amazing aspect was this caretaker was employed at the same time the founder started the Company. He was employed as the Caretaker. They were also about the same age, both were in their sixties at the time.

After twenty-five years the Company had employed about two hundred people. The caretaker retained the same position and was quite happy with his job. It is indeed true that life is about making choices, if we are happy with our choices, this is the key thing. The caretaker felt so fulfilled because he knew everything about the building and was quite proud that he had been dedicated to his job for the last twenty-five years.

I doubted if he would have found such fulfilment if he had been the founder. As far as I am concerned, this caretaker was highly successful because he possessed something money couldn’t buy, a peaceful life. Life is truly about making choices and he made the right one. Some are founders and others are helpers. Based on some of my findings, if not for the great input of the caretaker, the Company would not have gone far. I see the caretaker as a very successful man.