I was a member of the Dramatic Society at School and I was surprised when I won the major role in a stage play. The play was about a boy and a girl in a relationship, the boy cheated and sought forgiveness from his girlfriend. The Girl demanded concrete reasons why he should be forgiven and, how complete trust could be restored.
I gave the interpretation of the character my best shot. I caught a glimpse of my mum in the crowd as tears of joy streamed down her face because of my outstanding performance. The play ended up with the lead character, giving reasons he should be trusted. The organizers debated about the title for a while, they could not decide if it the title should be forgiveness or second chance, they eventually settled for forgiveness.
On getting home, I thought about my Father who abandoned me and asked myself that if he should return and ask for my forgiveness, would I ever forgive him? It was an emphatic no, I would rather match, hatred with hatred, because as far as I was concerned my Father hated me. This would be the only way for me to get even. If he ever comes to me for help, I will gladly turn him down. I never thought I would ever forgive him.
I spoke to my mum about not forgiving my Dad, talking about an eye for an eye. My mum realised that she had extra work to do because She never knew that I had so much hatred for my Father until my confession. She set me up for the healing process. She told me that I needed to forgive my Father immediately. She explained that if I do not forgive him now, it won’t fix the damages already done. If I refuse to forgive him, I will have to live with hatred and bitterness for the rest of my life.
She went further to tell me that I must always wish him the best. She began to help me to gather the strength to forgive, she did explain that forgiveness does not mean accepting the terrible act, but forgiveness will help to remove the grip my father’s attitude have over my life. The process of forgiveness has been one of the most difficult things in my life. It was not something that happened overnight, but with my mum’s unquenchable effort she made sure that I learnt how to see my Father in a different light.
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