I was watching a movie some time ago and in this scene was a newly wed. The husband headed towards the front door and the way his wife descended the stairs, looking at her countenance one could tell that she was upset. The reason she was upset was because her new husband was not wearing his wedding ring. I have not only witnessed this in a movie, but also in the real world.
I’d spoken to some women about this and as usual the result was mixed feelings. I was not really bothered about the women who said they did not care. My concern was about women who claimed that, if the man was not wearing his band, the man was either planning to be unfaithful or perhaps he was already cheating.
If a married man left his house wearing his wedding band, is this a guarantee that he would be faithful? These women still insisted that the man must always have his wedding band on his finger. I believe that these women are living in an ideal world and not a real one.
It does not really make a difference if a man is wearing the band or not. The band has absolutely no power to stop him from breaking his covenant or keeping his marital vows. In the past, I would have supported these women who believe a man must have his wedding band on display while going out. An encounter about this gave me a clearer picture about the situation.
In the barber shop, I was having a haircut, my barber; a married man with two beautiful kids was on the phone. He was talking to a lady, after the telephone conversation he said, there were many women out there who were ready to be a willing participant to any Married man who was ready to play ball. Although I have always known that all needed was a willing participant, the only thing was I had never connected this to the wedding band syndrome.
This was the proof needed, to know that a man not wearing his wedding band is not a guarantee for faithfulness. I listened to a preacher sometimes ago and he said there were two things about sin. He said, “there is temptation and there is invitation”. He said, “Temptation is something the devil puts before you that you don’t want to do”. “Invitation is something the devil puts before you that you really want to do.”
In conclusion one of the greatest teachers who ever lived said, being unfaithful was a matter of the heart, the physical part will only be the concluding aspect.